My kids were screaming at each other.
“Mom, he stole my Legos!”
“I did not! They are mine.”
“Mom, he hurt me.”
“Mom! She’s in my room again!”
You ever had one of those days? Or weeks? Maybe a month has gone by and there has been no release?
It’s like war erupted in your home and no matter how hard you try to draw up the peace lines, no one will budge. Or apologize. Or care.
I feel like one of those countries who want to slap down rules.
I started to get angry. Angrier then I have been in awhile. With all the complaining, selfishness and whining, I did not want to show justice, mercy, or whatever else I was suppose to. I wanted to spank them all.
And then I wanted to run.
So during one of the heated battles, and a screaming match, and my own tone getting thrown in I thought, “Enough is enough! God, what do you want me to do with all this?”
I sent them all to bed and then remembered this site I had checked out by Kim Sorgious called Not Consumed. There was a study called, “My Brother’s Keeper” that I had been eyeballing for about a month or two, but didn’t think I could get it. But after that moment, I had to try it out. Desperation called out. I needed to get back to the Bible and relearn how to respond in these situations, just like my kids.
I wasn’t sure if this would help but I had to try to do something. My baby brain was muddled and my hormones were tripping over each other. I had times of outbursts in anger, and had crying fits which really does not help teach my kids how to act in everyday life. Enough was enough.
Maybe this resource would help us look at things and change perspective. And to realize we need to help and love one another, not because Mommy said so, but because God wants us to.
Week one, on the first day, she talked about how we are all fearfully and wonderfully made. And if individually we are fearfully and wonderfully made, the same goes to our siblings (or children, as is my case).
So when my kids started complaining, or started to get mean, I would look them in the eyes, sometimes holding the sides of their face (even if I was angry) and go, “You are fearfully and wonderfully made.”
I forget how just speaking scripture into my kids and situation makes all the difference in the world. My anger would go down a bit and I was able to talk to them without being mean myself. It was amazing.
And the study didn’t end there. With scripture verse after scripture verse, my mind absorbed the words and I would reiterate what we learned in the study: a brother was born for adversity (he was born to be there during times of trouble), children are a blessing and a reward and we need to see each other as a blessing, not a curse, and God purposely put us in the family we were in. As we talked through these things, the tension started going down. The fighting went down. It didn’t totally dissipate but it was so much better than it had been for the last two weeks or so.
All I could do was praise God! And that was only week 1! We still had three more weeks to go.
This week we are talking about what causes these issues in our family that make us want to duke it out. Envy, selfishness, etc. This study really is making an impact on us and has been one of my favorite studies so far with the kids! Sometimes all you need is scripture and to rethink things in God’s light and it just makes a huge difference.
I think after this one we may look up the one on Obedience, but until then, I am one happy, satisfied Momma!
And as I have explored Kim’s site, she writes things that are near and dear to my heart. This week she has touched on Missionaries and their stories, why you should teach your kids these stories and what it brought to her family personally. I found the same thing happen when it was incorporated into our homeschool when we first started out.
Sometimes you are just inspired and encouraged through what other people do. I am so thankful to have found another Mom on the same journey and with the same heart to show truth and love to her kids!
Anyways, I hope you will check out her website. 🙂 Be inspired today!