I randomly saw a picture on Facebook that said something like this:
Birds are (better) than politics.
The right wing and the left wing hold up the center.
That statement gives a beautiful picture of balance and wouldn’t it be amazing if our government was that way? But it’s not.
With those politicians we agree with we go, “Hey! That’s right! They are pretty smart there.”
With those we don’t agree with we can get critical, and sometimes nasty, to them. We call them names.
We think since they said one thing wrong, they are wrong all the time. So we don’t listen to anything they have to say.
Am I right?
(Side note: This is not everyone, and I don’t always enjoy bantering about those in office, but it does represent a lot of people in our country.)
Tons of people have different perspectives on things. But how do we generally approach them?
Do we approach our husbands the same way we approach politicians?
Think about it. How does a marriage work?
Two people with sometimes very different backgrounds and views on how to do things get married. They didn’t know the other person was different because they discussed everything beforehand.
They thought they had it all together. They thought the love feelings would last. They were on the same page in everything.
Or so they thought.
After they get married they find out that, no matter what they said, they show, through their every day life, that sometimes they have very different views on what a family is and how to make it work.
In most cases, this can lead to ensuing battles of control, talking about how bad the other one is and how they aren’t listening to “me”, and so many other things.
The best marriage is when they learn how to work together (because God gave them both gifts and things to help balance each other) to figure out how their family should be run, what they will do or follow, and what they hope to accomplish together in the future.
If you can’t do that, you are pretty much sunk.
If one side, the husband or wife, becomes more dominant in the relationship where they make the other do what they say or want, the picture gets distorted. It gets broken.
The idea is to become one and work together. When both sides discuss, agree, disagree in a loving manner, etc., they eventually meld into this beautiful picture of FAMILY.
It’s not an easy road. Especially if there is still a bunch of unworked on issues in your own heart. Sometimes this actually can take YEARS, but it is possible.
Different perspectives are okay when we go through the ins and outs of the relationship and understand where the other person got their perspective. It actually helps our minds to understand that God didn’t just make our brain to rule the world, but He put others in place to help us stretch and see the things we may have personally missed. The result? Balance.
What a beautiful picture!
It’s the same with my family. When I think about my husband and I, I see two very different people. BUT when I see Christ has both our hearts, we fit into place and we are more giving and loving to the other person.
For us, we have learned after almost 10 1/2 years that we need to listen, love, help and work out things. We aren’t perfect. We have times where we push buttons. But, ultimately, we want our family to glorify God and show love and respect to each other and those outside our family.
We do have some horror stories and bad scenes throughout those beginning years, but God is the one who molds both of us together when we are willing. He has made things work out, even when I thought that they never would.
What’s your perspective?
Be inspired today!